How Santa Started Visiting Our House

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When I became a mother, I never wanted to pretend to be Santa Claus.

I didn’t want to participate in the big lie. Instead of magic, I thought the Santa myth was a bunch of overrated bologna. It didn’t make sense to me to buy presents for my kids and then pretend that some fictional character had actually given those gifts. I didn’t want to put my kids on a stranger man’s lap. And I never wanted to convince them that someone would sneak into our house at night while we were sleeping and knew if they had been naughty or nice. The whole pseudo-omniscience thing just really didn’t sit well with me.

I didn’t want anything to do with Santa. Or his sleigh. Or his reindeer. Or any of it. But it turned out, this whole Santa thing actually had very little to do with me.  Continue reading “How Santa Started Visiting Our House”

I Regret Telling My Child There Is No Easter Bunny

It’s not easy to admit you’ve made a mistake. As a parent, it’s even harder. What I did was wrong and I can’t even apologize to my son because I don’t want to remind him that for years, I told him that Santa Claus and the Easter Bunny aren’t real. I put my own ideals before the needs of my child. I strongly believe that lying to kids is wrong, but I let that get in the way of being a good mother. My little boy wanted to believe in magic. He wanted to be like the other kids and I didn’t allow that. Instead, I put myself first. Continue reading “I Regret Telling My Child There Is No Easter Bunny”

Chanukah, My Beloved Underdog Holiday

Chanukah, My Beloved Underdog Holiday

Last week while we were riding in the car, my four-year-old son Wolfy asked, “Are we Christmas people?”

Christmas people? What are Christmas people?

This holiday season, Wolfy has been obsessed with Christmas. At the bank, he runs to the Christmas tree grabbing my hand and pulling me along. “Look at the ornaments! See all the presents, Mommy?”

At home, The Polar Express is the book of choice at bedtime.

And when we walk downtown, he stops to exclaim over every Christmas-y thing in every window display. “A Santa Claus! And an elf! Wow!” I try to get excited along with him and also point out the menorah hovering in the back of the store window. “Yup,” he says, “A menorah. And there’s a reindeer!!!”

In the car, I suppress a sigh and answer his question, “Yes, we are ‘Christmas people’ but we are ‘Chanukah people’ too.” Continue reading “Chanukah, My Beloved Underdog Holiday”

Toddler’s Holiday To-Do List

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Some people call the holidays the most wonderful time of the year. But for many of us adults, making the magic happen can just make us feel stressed out. We’re making our shopping lists and checking them twice. We’re planning menus and buying expensive plane tickets. Well rest assured fellow parents; our toddlers have a very busy agenda as well. Our sweet little elves are trying to accomplish a lot this holiday season.

Here is your toddler’s official holiday to-do list:

1. Play hide-n-seek in a store that is packed to the gills with last minute shoppers.  A super awesome trick is to disappear into the middle of a clothes rack and watch your parent frantically search for you.

2. Have a meltdown when you’re only allowed to open one door per day on the advent calendar. Repeat for all of December.

3. Insist on lighting the candles on the Hanukkah menorah all by yourself. While you are holding the flame, don’t squander this prime opportunity to attempt to light everything else on fire other than the candles.

4. Eat tinsel, mistletoe, raw cranberries, and pine needles.

5. Get hopelessly stuck in a snow bank. Holler as though you might be dying or being abused. It keeps the neighborhood interesting.

6. Pee in your snowsuit.

7. Take off your boots and socks every time you are in your car seat for more than five minutes.

8. Make your legs into limp noodles whenever someone attempts to put the boots back on.

9. Insist on putting your boots on all by yourself. Take approximately two hours to accomplish this task. End up putting them on the wrong feet. Insist that they are actually on the right feet and that feel completely fine.

10. Whenever it’s necessary to go past the Christmas tree, make sure you sideswipe the entire thing. The jingling sound of the ornaments all crashing together is a wonderful noise.

11. Throw a tantrum at least once per day because you really, really, REALLY need to open a present. Try to open at least one present every time your parents dare to take their eyes off of you.

12. When at a party: touch every cookie on the plate before making your selection. Always put your finger in a cake or pie.  And most importantly, never miss an opportunity to take a bite out of a slice of cheese or carrot stick and then sneak it back onto the snack tray.

Parenting: at least it’s never boring!
Happy Holidays!!!

9 Amazing Children’s Holiday Books

The holiday season is upon us. Shopping, parties, extended family, cookies, too much food. It’s cold outside and gets dark far too early. This is also the perfect time to cuddle up with a small person and a good book. I compiled this list with the aim of showcasing non-religious stories that still exemplify the values and morals of the holiday season. I tried to pick stories that focus on generosity, family, community, and kindness. Continue reading “9 Amazing Children’s Holiday Books”

9 Amazing Children’s Holiday Books (that You’ve Probably Never Read and Definitely Should)

The holiday season is upon us. Shopping, parties, extended family, cookies, too much food. It’s cold outside and gets dark far too early. This is also the perfect time to cuddle up with a small person and a good book. I compiled this list with the aim of showcasing non-religious stories that still exemplify the values and morals of the holiday season. I tried to pick stories that focus on generosity, family, community, and kindness. Some books lean toward Christmas or Chanukah but most are meant to just speak to anyone that celebrates anything. Enjoy!

1. Night Tree by Eve Bunting, illustrated by Ted Rand

This is a magical story about a family’s unusual holiday tradition. By moonlight in the quiet forest, a young boy and his family bring a picnic, sing songs, and decorate their favorite tree with popcorn, apples, tangerines, and sunflower-seed balls as a gift for the animals of the woods. Reading this book has inspired our family to create an outdoor tree as a way of saying thank you to the wild animals that share our homestead.

2. The Little Fir Tree by Margaret Wise Brown, illustrated by Jim LaMarche

From the author of Goodnight Moon and paired with incredible realistic illustrations. This tale recounts how a living pine tree is brought indoors each year and how it bears witness to the miraculous healing of a sick little boy (who in the 1950s, may have had polio). Every Christmas, the father digs up the little fir tree and takes it to decorate his son’s room where the boy’s friends gather to sing carols. Then the father replants the tree in the meadow. As Christmas Eve approaches years later, and no one comes to bring it to the house, the little fir is lonely and sad. But he hears singing, soon he sees the children he remembers, especially the little boy, coming close. He is now grown up and walking and bringing the holiday cheer with him and his friends, to the small tree that had brought him so much joy. Reading this story aloud seriously got me all choked up. Sixty years after it was first published, it’s still that good.

3. Owl Moon by Jane Yolen, illustrated by John Schoenherr

A girl and her father go looking for owls on a moonlit winter night near the farm where they live. Written with careful prose that read more like poetry, Yolen makes a simple walk into a magical adventure. Bundled tight in wool clothes, they trudge through snow “whiter than the milk in a cereal bowl”; here and there, hidden in ink-blue shadows, a fox, raccoon, field mouse, and deer watch them pass. An air of expectancy builds as Pa imitates the Great Horned Owl’s call once without answer, then again. Then, from out of the darkness “an echo/ came threading its way/ through the trees.” This story captivated the imagination of my two year old boy but also will enthrall much older children as well as adults.

4. The Animal’s Santa written and illustrated by Jan Brett

This is the latest book by an author of many amazing stories. When Big Snowshoe tells Little Snow that the animals’ Santa is coming with presents for everyone, Little Snow wants to know who he is. The animals say they have never seen him. Maybe he’s a badger, a moose, a polar bear, or a wolf, they tell him. But this spunky little rabbit thinks they are just fooling him. On Christmas Eve, Big Snowshoe finds a way to see the animals’ Santa when a Snowy Owl in a red cap swoops down with a pack full of presents. Never again will an excited Little Snow doubt that there is an animals’ Santa.
Also check out her other winter and holiday stories such as Trouble With Trolls, The Mitten, The Three Snow Bears, and The Wild Christmas Reindeer.

5. My Two Holidays by Danielle Novack, illustrated by Phyllis Harris

A young boy is preparing for the holidays, decorating his Christmas tree and polishing his Menorah. But at school, as child after child, shares their story about their holiday tradition, Sam becomes confused and embarrassed, because all the other children only have one holiday and he has two. That night he tells his mother what happened, and she explains all the positive reasons behind his family celebrating two traditions. The next day at school Sam shares about having two traditions and the other kids think that it is actually very cool. This is a nice story, written by a clinical psychologist, about accepting yourself and others.

6. Hanukkah Bear by Eric A. Kimmel, illustrated by Mike Wohnoutka

This is a goofy story that also tells about many of the traditions of Chanukah. A bear wakes to wonderful smells that leads him to the house of Bubba Brayna. Bubba Brayna makes the best latkes in the village, but at ninety-seven, she doesn’t hear or see well. When the bear arrives at her door, she believes he is her rabbi. Bubba Brayna and the bear light the menorah, play the dreidel game, and eat all the latkes. When the mix-up is revealed, Bubba Brayna has a good laugh about it, and everyone works together to make more latkes.

7. Blizzard written and illustrated by John Rocco

This book was a Caldecott honoree for it’s amazing illustrations. It is based on author’s childhood experience during the now infamous Blizzard of 1978, which brought fifty-three inches of snow to his small town in Rhode Island. Told with a brief text and dynamic illustrations, the book opens with a boy’s excitement upon seeing the first snowflake fall outside his classroom window. It ends with the neighborhood’s immense relief upon seeing the first snowplow break through on their street. In between the boy watches his familiar landscape transform into something alien, and readers watch him transform into a hero who puts the needs of others first.

8. Snowman’s Story illustrated by Will Hillenbrand

This is a wordless picture book that allows children or adults to make up their own story. The illustrations show that one wintry day, a hat lands on the head of a newly made snowman and brings him to life. Hiding inside the hat is a rabbit, who listens to the snowman read a story to some animal friends. When the snowman falls asleep, the rabbit hops away with the book. But the snowman isn’t about to let his story—or the mischievous rabbit—get away. The chase is on!

9. The Trees of the Dancing Goats by Patricia Polacco

This story is based on a long-cherished childhood memory of the author. Trisha loves to celebrate Hanukkah, but the middle of her family’s preparation for the holiday, Trisha visits her closest neighbors, expecting to find them decorating their house for Christmas. Instead they are all bedridden with scarlet fever. Trisha’s family is one of the few who has been spared from the epidemic. It is difficult for them to enjoy their Hanukkah feast when they know that their neighbors won’t be able to celebrate their holiday. Then Grampa has an inspiration: they will cut down trees, decorate them, and secretly deliver them to the neighbors, “But what can we decorate them with?” Babushka asks. Although it is a sacrifice, Trisha realizes that Grampa’s carved animals are the perfect answer. Soon her living room is filled with trees — but that is only the first miracle of many during an incredible holiday season.