A Letter From the Family Dog (Guest Post by My Husband Will Eberle)

Dear family,

Fuck you.  Truly.

Remember, before you brought those feeble, pink, fur-less puppies home, when you used to care if I lived or died?  Yeah, me too. Continue reading “A Letter From the Family Dog (Guest Post by My Husband Will Eberle)”

A Letter From the Family Dog (Guest Post by My Husband Will Eberle)

A Letter From the Family Dog

Dear family,

Fuck you.  Truly.

Remember, before you brought those feeble, pink, fur-less puppies home, when you used to care if I lived or died?  Yeah, me too.

Nevertheless, I’m still here, patiently waiting for you to regain your senses and rekindle the relationship we once had.

Currently I’m literally drowning in my own fat, a once regal, now morbidly obese canine long of tooth and nail struggling to get off the couch, desperate for just one minuscule scrap of attention.  You used to stand on opposite sides of a field and hit tennis balls for me for hours. I’d gallop across the alfalfa like a Prometheus Proto-dog, glistening in the sunshine like an Egyptian god-dog emblazoned in hand-ground pigment for all time on the side of some Pharaoh’s sarcophagus.

Now I’m the thing you trip over on the way to finding your Crocs. You used to buy me raw chicken and lovingly Saran Wrap individual portions to be frozen and triumphantly presented to me each day like flutes of champagne at the Carnivàle. Now you fling a hideous glop of dry kibble in my general direction every night before flossing your teeth. Would that I was the floss in your treacherous fingers, at least then I’d feel your warm touch just once again upon my fur.

Do you remember when we used to go canoe camping together?  I’d ride in the prow like a Viking pillager, steadfastly keeping lookout for the first spit of land, the rich timbre of my bark peeling of the mountains when we found a likely cove?

Now I’m lucky if you notice me barking when you’re stepping on my tail.

I. Literally. Can’t. Even.

Let’s get a few things straight. Those new puppies you got? They’re shitty dogs. They have no teeth or claws to speak of, and they don’t even have the decency to kick dirt upon their feces, no they have the audacity to make you handle it and wipe their neither regions with dampened clothes. How absolutely vile.  Can we talk about their protection skills for a minute? Unless you’re looking for someone to protect a warm bottle of milk you’d be better off with a banana slug if intruders visited the home place at night.

I can crunch through chicken bones; I wouldn’t know who to put my money on in a fair fight between them and a graham cracker. I can swim across a reservoir; those pathetic displays can barely survive a sink bath.  It disgusts me.

But it wasn’t always like this. We used to have something truly special. Oh how I remember the delicious jangle of my leash, the brisk wind whipping through the open door, your joyous whistle. I’d bound to the stoop, your beloved and trusted companion, and we would cover miles of terrain like visiting dignitaries inspecting the estate of a great and noble host.

Life was simple. We were happy. All I needed was you, and all you needed was me. Or so I thought.

Now all that I inspect is the floor of the breakfast nook, the site of my daily debasement, where I’ve taken to groveling beneath the “high chair” of the one you have crowned, and christened “baby.”

How I despise this “baby.”  Would that she too knew the dirty oaken boards of you floor, would that her knees became accustomed to its knots, as she waited hour after accursed hour for just one morsel of pre-chewed food to drop. Would, that just once her precious dampened cloth failed to come to her aid, and she was made to live with the natural consequences of her deprivations after soiling our once lovely den.

I pray that you will come to your senses, my old, dear, friends –  my “family.”  I pray that the fog will rise from your once mighty brains, the shroud will be lifted from your eyes, and you will remember the noble dog before you.

Though it has been years, I entreat you to remember that it is still not too late.

Simply leave the fur-less ones outside –  nature will attend to the rest.  Remove the jars of putrescence vegetable mush from the refrigerator and once again fill its shelves with glorious mounds of Saran-wrapped chicken.  Throw the “diaper bag” in the nearest trash compactor so that nothing might prevent you from easily grasping the leashes and toys of your oldest friend.

We can be great again, you and I.  Just throw the ball.  You can be assured that I will always fetch it.

I leave you now as I found you, wretched and alone.  May the sun and fresh air of days to come remind you of your decency, and your duty.

Sincerely,

Your Dog.

P.S. – I know how much you love that damp cloth, so I left you a little present in the shower.

 

 

 

 

Living Beyond Infertility (Guest Post by My Sister)

Happynew year!

I always knew I wanted to be a mom.

I played with dolls. Then I graduated to my baby sister. I changed her diapers. I braided her hair.

I babysat EVERY kid of EVERYONE my parents knew. And I loved them all.

I became a teacher.

I collected cool names I might one day want to give my kids.

I kept up with the latest titles in children’s literature.

I kept my old stretched out Fat Girl clothes, so I could save money when I got pregnant. Continue reading “Living Beyond Infertility (Guest Post by My Sister)”

Living Beyond Infertility (Guest Post by My Sister)

Happynew year!

I always knew I wanted to be a mom.

I played with dolls. Then I graduated to my baby sister. I changed her diapers. I braided her hair.

I babysat EVERY kid of EVERYONE my parents knew. And I loved them all.

I became a teacher.

I collected cool names I might one day want to give my kids.

I kept up with the latest titles in children’s literature.

I kept my old stretched out Fat Girl clothes, so I could save money when I got pregnant. Continue reading “Living Beyond Infertility (Guest Post by My Sister)”

How to Get Your Four-Year-Old to Preschool On Time (A Guest Post by my husband, Will Eberle)

preschool on time

6:00am Lean over in the dark and peak at your phone. Freak out! You only have 30 minutes until it begins…

1 minute later (Actual time- 6:30) Hear that accursed chime – your alarm clock – your daily reminder that your plan to design Lego sets for a living or become a professional bass fisherman didn’t work out and your mix-tape wasn’t fire so you still have to go to work every damn day. Continue reading “How to Get Your Four-Year-Old to Preschool On Time (A Guest Post by my husband, Will Eberle)”

Saying It Out Loud (Guest Post)

saying it out loud

The first time I said “my child is autistic” I remember feeling as if I was in a movie where I could literally see the words floating in the air once they escaped my mouth…

And, God help me, I wanted to snatch them back. Continue reading “Saying It Out Loud (Guest Post)”

Interview with a Surrogate Mother

surrogate motherLast month I had the opportunity to interview a surrogate mother.

There is so much mystery, misunderstanding, and assumptions surrounding the surrogacy process. Talking with this woman gave me a window into her experience and motivation for becoming a surrogate. Continue reading “Interview with a Surrogate Mother”

Thoughts on a Miscarriage (A Guest Post Written by My Sister)

sister miscarriage

I have been trying to think of how to explain what I feel, how empty I am. It took a long while and then one day, lying awake, it came to me.

I want you to imagine how much time you spend each day thinking about your child. I want all parents to consider how many times throughout the day they are focused completely on their children. I want you all to think about how much you love them. I want you to imagine how much space they occupy in your mind and in your heart. Continue reading “Thoughts on a Miscarriage (A Guest Post Written by My Sister)”

Thoughts on a Miscarriage

–This is a Guest Post Written by My Sister–

I have been trying to think of how to explain what I feel, how empty I am. It took a long while and then one day, lying awake, it came to me.

I want you to imagine how much time you spend each day thinking about your child. I want all parents to consider how many times throughout the day they are focused completely on their children. I want you all to think about how much you love them. I want you to imagine how much space they occupy in your mind and in your heart. Continue reading “Thoughts on a Miscarriage”

Real Advice for Mothers Expecting a Second Child (Guest Posts, Part 4)

A few weeks ago, I reached out to my community of amazing women and asked for some advice on becoming a mother of two children.

I asked only one question: “What do you wish someone had told you about having a second baby?” I was blown away by the responses I received. Women from across the country, with children of all ages, opened up and spoke honestly about their experiences of being a mother to multiple children. Continue reading “Real Advice for Mothers Expecting a Second Child (Guest Posts, Part 4)”