The Missing Chapters: A Story of Love, Loss, and Ectopic Pregnancy

Written by Tabitha Cummings

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I finally feel at peace with sharing my story, of spreading hope.

I fell in love, deeply. My life was finally evolving into the fairy tale I had envisioned since my youth. We had a plan: We would marry at my family home, surrounded by our friends and family, then we would honeymoon in Europe, ultimately taking in the sites and making a baby.

Turns out, it isn’t always that easy. Continue reading “The Missing Chapters: A Story of Love, Loss, and Ectopic Pregnancy”

Living Beyond Infertility (Guest Post by My Sister)

Happynew year!

I always knew I wanted to be a mom.

I played with dolls. Then I graduated to my baby sister. I changed her diapers. I braided her hair.

I babysat EVERY kid of EVERYONE my parents knew. And I loved them all.

I became a teacher.

I collected cool names I might one day want to give my kids.

I kept up with the latest titles in children’s literature.

I kept my old stretched out Fat Girl clothes, so I could save money when I got pregnant. Continue reading “Living Beyond Infertility (Guest Post by My Sister)”

Living Beyond Infertility (Guest Post by My Sister)

Happynew year!

I always knew I wanted to be a mom.

I played with dolls. Then I graduated to my baby sister. I changed her diapers. I braided her hair.

I babysat EVERY kid of EVERYONE my parents knew. And I loved them all.

I became a teacher.

I collected cool names I might one day want to give my kids.

I kept up with the latest titles in children’s literature.

I kept my old stretched out Fat Girl clothes, so I could save money when I got pregnant. Continue reading “Living Beyond Infertility (Guest Post by My Sister)”

Our Bodies Are Not ‘Meant For’ Childbirth

Our bodies are meant for this.

This innocent-sounding phrase is everywhere. You read it in novels. You hear the instructor in childbirth class repeat it again and again. And it’s all over on social media. It’s something women say to other women because they think that it is encouraging and helpful. Maybe you’ve even said it yourself because you were trying to reassure your pregnant friend that everything was going to turn out all right. Childbirth is scary so if you believe that we as women are “meant for this” maybe the whole thing will seem easier, but really that sentiment doesn’t help at all.

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Hope In Moderation: My Experience with Fertility Doctors (Guest Post)

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I have been a responsible person all my life. I have always made sure to take my vitamins and drink enough water. I work out and I pay bills on time and I get my oil changed on the recommended schedule. My house plants are watered, my dishes are clean, and all my emails are relegated to pertinent folders.

It took me a long time to accept that I might be infertile.

Continue reading “Hope In Moderation: My Experience with Fertility Doctors (Guest Post)”

Hope In Moderation: My Experience with Fertility Doctors (Guest Post)

baby-716738_1280

I have been a responsible person all my life. I have always made sure to take my vitamins and drink enough water. I work out and I pay bills on time and I get my oil changed on the recommended schedule. My house plants are watered, my dishes are clean, and all my emails are relegated to pertinent folders.

It took me a long time to accept that I might be infertile.

Continue reading “Hope In Moderation: My Experience with Fertility Doctors (Guest Post)”

5 Non-Casserole Food Ideas to Bring to a Family With a New Baby

5 Non-Casserole Ideas

I have a confession, I am terrible at bringing food to my friends who have just had babies. I worry that they won’t like my style of cooking, or that the dish will taste terrible, or not travel well to their house, or not adhere to someone’s dietary guidelines. I’m guilty of sometimes staying away and not bringing much of anything at all.

I created this list as a reminder to myself that bringing food over to someone doesn’t always mean you need to bake casserole or make a full meal and often it’s even better if you bring something like these ideas instead. 

Continue reading “5 Non-Casserole Food Ideas to Bring to a Family With a New Baby”

The Girl Who Tried to Jump Into the World – A Birth Story

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Allow me to introduce to you, our new baby girl, Ada.

Ada came into this world on a snowy night less than three weeks ago and she made quite an entrance.

Here is the story of her birth:

A couple Mondays ago, I was thirty-nine weeks pregnant. I was supposed to go to my regular weekly appointment with my midwives. But we were in the middle of another huge northeastern blizzard that was expected to dump over a foot of snow, so my husband and I decided that it was more dangerous to try to drive to the appointment than to skip it. Continue reading “The Girl Who Tried to Jump Into the World – A Birth Story”

Interview with a Surrogate Mother

surrogate motherLast month I had the opportunity to interview a surrogate mother.

There is so much mystery, misunderstanding, and assumptions surrounding the surrogacy process. Talking with this woman gave me a window into her experience and motivation for becoming a surrogate. Continue reading “Interview with a Surrogate Mother”